RADIO SHOW/AUDIO PODCAST
Solutions...with Courtney Anderson! (SwCA)
Episode 178 -
Originally aired 8/28/2014 9:00 AM -
SATISFACTION SATURATION™ series -
“I Am Successful. I Am NOT Happy. Why?"
TALK SHOW EPISODE NOTESYou did it! You climbed that mountain (literally and/ or figuratively) and you are now resting at the summit. Breathe in that sweet air of accomplishment! Very nice. Okay, you take it all in (the view from here, the beauty, the joy of surpassing your goals, etc.). Feels awesome. Wait, are you starting to feel a bit bored? What are you going to do next? You could do nothing. You have already proven yourself and achieved many things in life. Why aren’t you simply resting on your laurels? What is the itch, the craving for the next part? It is SATISFACTION SATURATION™ and you are experiencing it.
You have “been there, done that and have the t-shirt.” You do not want anymore of this mountain. It has reached a point of saturation (as per the Merriam-Webster dictionary definition, “the act or result of supplying so much of something that no more is wanted”). You are craving a new mountain to climb. This series, “SATISFACTION SATURATION™”, is for you. We will address the challenges in reaching the SATISFACTION SATURATION state in regards to specific experiences, how to recognize it, how to treat it, how to prevent it, and how to handle the feedback from other people (“Must be nice to have that job, that house, that car, that award,” etc.). This specific episode is, “I Am Successful. I Am NOT Happy. Why?” 1) You are not successful if you are not happy. 2) Why did you do the things to be partially successful? To please others? Because they were easy for you? As per number one above, if you are in a prolonged, chronic state of unhappiness, you are not successful. The entire purpose of our “Joyful Art of Business” practice is to prevent an outcome where we have some limited success (in prestige, income, accolades, reputation, etc.) and we are miserable. We should focus on our emotional and psychological return on our investment (ROI) of time and resources in our work endeavors. That means that we do not accept a job or professional opportunity because “everyone thinks we should” or because “it is what our parents wanted for us.” We are going to monitor our individual feelings and reactions to our work. If we dread our work and have a headache every time we go to our office, we need to make some changes. We should have some level of anticipation and excitement about the work that we do! We all are aware of stories of rich and sad executives, lonely superstars, famous and miserable public figures who “suffer in silence” behind closed doors. Suffering is still suffering whether it is out in the open or hidden behind closed doors. If you have an ability to alleviate some of your suffering, do so. You have some areas of success (income, accomplishments, etc.) so you must leverage those to transition to a different daily professional life that results in you feeling positive more than feeling negative. Just because you have experienced some aspects of success does not negate your intrinsic value as a human (which is equal to other humans). You have value and your feelings matter. If other people who are dependent on you (financially, emotionally, etc.) and/ or who live vicariously through you are angry about you changing your life in order to address your unhappiness, that is their issue. I was teased and insulted when I decided to pursue motivational speaking/ corporate training at a time when I was running my law office. It required sacrifices and a strategy to explore the potential new professional opportunities and recalibrate my daily activities to maintain the aspects of practicing law that I love with the new opportunities for speaking. I am much happier as a result! I am responsible for my own life and my own emotional well-being. I accepted that responsibility and I urge you to do the same. This New York Times article is an example of a former professional athlete who subsequently pursued a love of music (as a DJ) at http://www.nytimes.com/2010/12/09/sports/basketball/09seikaly.html?pagewanted=all&_r=0. Be brave. Make your happiness a priority. Ultimately, you will achieve real success when you combine your past accomplishments with current endeavors that engage your passion and result in new dreams and adventures in life! |
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