In our HELP! SITUATION SPOTLIGHT™ series, we shine the light on challenges that community members have shared. This episode is, “"How Do I Protect Myself While Remaining Open To New People?"
ANSWER: Make a commitment to yourself that you will keep yourself safe from harm. That's how. 1) Why should you remain open to new people? “We all know people who are so much afraid of pain that they shut themselves up like clams in a shell and, giving out nothing, receive nothing and therefore shrink until life is a mere living death.” - Eleanor Roosevelt (longest serving First Lady of the US) NOTE: This quote was discussed in these other shows: RADIO SHOW/AUDIO PODCAST: Solutions...with Courtney Anderson! (SwCA) Episode 076 - Originally aired 4/8/2014 9:00 AM - MYTH WARRIORS! series - “I am scared. My fear is holding me back in life.” - Part 1 of 2 & RADIO SHOW/AUDIO PODCAST: Solutions...with Courtney Anderson! (SwCA) Episode 077 - Originally aired 4/9/2014 9:00 AM - MYTH WARRIORS! series - “I am scared. My fear is holding me back in life.” - Part 2 of 2 2) What do we mean by 'protect'? Definition of protect ": to keep (someone or something) from being harmed, lost, etc. : to save (someone) from financial loss caused by fire, injury, damage, etc." Protect. (n.d.). Retrieved August 24, 2014, from http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/protect 3) What specifically do we mean by 'open'? (Not vulnerable, not [...] HELP! SITUATION SPOTLIGHT™ series addresses challenges, obstacles and problems (real or perceived) that are preventing a person from surpassing their goals! In this series, we shine the light on challenges that community members have shared. This episode is, “Why Doesn’t My Experience Mean MORE Than Credentials (degree, license, etc.)?”
Here's why: 1) How does anyone know what your experience actually is (versus what you assert it to be)? Do you want to go to a hospital and have the physician tell you that they have an immense amount of experience (but no actual medical degree or [...] The HELP! SITUATION SPOTLIGHT™ series addresses challenges, obstacles and problems (real or perceived) that are preventing a person from surpassing their goals! In this series, we shine the light on challenges that community members have shared. This episode is, “A Work Colleague Has Experienced A Tragic Death of A Loved One. What Should I Do?”
Life. Death is a reality for all of us. A tragic death (accident, homicide, suicide, etc.) is not. What do you do if a tragic death becomes a reality for a work colleague? 1) Be there. 2) Listen. If you have experienced a tragic death in your life you have an advantage (in some respects) when your work colleague experiences one in their lives. The compassion, empathy and understanding that a tragic death survivor is able to provide to another person is an asset. The natural aversion to the colleague (from people who have not experienced a real life tragic death themselves) is understandable at some level. We all hear about tragic death. It is on the news. It is in our media in film, music, poetry, video games, etc., yet that is an abstract awareness devoid of the devastation of the actual child, spouse, friend, boss, parent, partner, that we know who is gone. The most ‘helpful’ things you should do, I repeat: 1) Be there. 2) Listen. I learned about these types of situations when my [...] In our HELP! SITUATION SPOTLIGHT™ series, we shine the light on challenges that community members have shared. This episode is, “I am being subjected to ‘The Silent Treatment’ from someone. How do I handle it?”
You Don’t. This is a challenging subject as many of us would prefer to remain silent about “the silent treatment” (ouch). Yet, we cannot do so. We prefer our aggression served out loud so that we are able to hear it. When we are confronted with aggression masquerading as innocent activity, it is slithery and elusive. When exactly did it start? Are we imagining it? Is silence really deafening or are we simply too sensitive? In this show we discuss ‘the silent treatment’ at work and in our personal lives. These two questions will be our guides irrespective of the setting: 1) How much are you invested in the person? 2) How much are you invested In the relationship? A) What is ‘the silent treatment’? Maybe I am simply imagining it? Or, perhaps I am confused and mistake a quiet person for an act of aggression? The silent treatment is a form of aggression. It is not your imagination. It is not you being too sensitive. It is not that some people are quiet (as quiet people are not entirely silent, they simply speak less loudly and less often). Specifically, this behavior is passive-aggression. “Passive aggression is aggression by “not doing” — and deliberately not communicating or giving someone the “silent treatment” is one of the more common forms of it. And passive-aggression can be one tool in an arsenal of weapons that people use to manipulate and/or abuse others.” (http://askthepsych.com/atp/2010/09/09/is-the-silent-treatment-a-form-of-abuse/) B) Why does a person use ‘the silent treatment’? In general, because [...] |
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