Is the best of your life already over?
Back in the Good Ole Days…
I used to be…
Those who live in the past are prevented from experiencing the present. The challenge is that the past does not exist. It is a memory, a shared story, a photo, a memento; yet it is not tangible today. It is part of who we are but it does not define who we are.
When our past had wonderful, extraordinary accomplishments it presents an additional opportunity for us to challenge ourselves to redefine our present day value. If a person is publicly known (and identified) by their past accomplishments it presents a unique situation. On one hand, the person is proud of the past accolades yet they understand that it is their burden to craft a broader, richer, updated and more sophisticated identity than a shorthand public image. In many ways this is similar to the burden we all share to cut through shorthand stereotypes and force ourselves (and other people) to see us as a multi-faceted individual and not a simple caricature.
We are not simply “former homecoming queen,” “woman,” “Olympic medalist,” etc. We are more than our past and our particular identifiers.We have dreams, goals, fears, hopes, favorite foods, stupid jokes and an array of yet to be discovered talents. New adventures await us.
We must take up the mantle of our own value and fight to redefine ourselves. The past shackles many people in apathy and disappointment. (“I’ll never live up to that again.”) We are susceptible to that “glory day, groundhog day” syndrome (the desire and action to relive the same past days of glory over and over again). We must admit and acknowledge that no matter what we achieved in the past, it is just [...]