This specific episode is, “Have You Already Peaked (is it downhill from here)?”
Is the best of your life already over? Remember when…? Back in the Good Ole Days… I used to be… Those who live in the past are prevented from experiencing the present. The challenge is that the past does not exist. It is a memory, a shared story, a photo, a memento; yet it is not tangible today. It is part of who we are but it does not define who we are. When our past had wonderful, extraordinary accomplishments it presents an additional opportunity for us to challenge ourselves to redefine our present day value. If a person is publicly known (and identified) by their past accomplishments it presents a unique situation. On one hand, the person is proud of the past accolades yet they understand that it is their burden to craft a broader, richer, updated and more sophisticated identity than a shorthand public image. In many ways this is similar to the burden we all share to cut through shorthand stereotypes and force ourselves (and other people) to see us as a multi-faceted individual and not a simple caricature. We are not simply “former homecoming queen,” “woman,” “Olympic medalist,” etc. We are more than our past and our particular identifiers.We have dreams, goals, fears, hopes, favorite foods, stupid jokes and an array of yet to be discovered talents. New adventures await us. We must take up the mantle of our own value and fight to redefine ourselves. The past shackles many people in apathy and disappointment. (“I’ll never live up to that again.”) We are susceptible to that “glory day, groundhog day” syndrome (the desire and action to relive the same past days of glory over and over again). We must admit and acknowledge that no matter what we achieved in the past, it is just [...] HELP! SITUATION SPOTLIGHT™ series addresses challenges, obstacles and problems (real or perceived) that are preventing a person from surpassing their goals! In this series, we shine the light on challenges that community members have shared. This episode is, “Why Doesn’t My Experience Mean MORE Than Credentials (degree, license, etc.)?”
Here's why: 1) How does anyone know what your experience actually is (versus what you assert it to be)? Do you want to go to a hospital and have the physician tell you that they have an immense amount of experience (but no actual medical degree or [...] In our JOYFUL ART OF BUSINESS™ series we explore how to combine the positive benefits of our professional endeavors (“business”) with the overall positive emotional return on our efforts (“joy”). The act of engaging in professional endeavors, in any capacity (i.e., as an employee, employer, entrepreneur, contractor, volunteer, paid, full time, part time, intermittently, etc.) is an expression of our ideas and creative talents (“art”).
In this episode our topic is, “The Real Reason You Can’t Have It All Is…” So, let’s get right to ‘the answer’! A) You don’t want ‘it all.’ B) ‘It All’ doesn’t exist. There are many public discussions that are gender focused regarding the general concept of working outside of a family and unit and contemporaneously working inside of a family unit. The stereotype is that a female is not able to work outside a family unit while working inside of one (and that their work and family will both suffer due to the lack of time and attention). For males the stereotype is that they are not able to work outside the family unit while working inside of one (and that their family unit will suffer due to the lack of time and attention while they prioritize their outside work). There is guilt, shame and regret for males and females in their pursuit of an unattainable fiction ('it all'). In the Harry Chapin song, “Cat’s in the Cradle” a father laments that his child, [...] In the MYTH WARRIORS™ series we are targeting ideas to begin to assess whether they are credible or not. We are warriors fighting to establish clarity between what is accurate and what is simply a myth (or falsehood) in life. We are deploying our highest level critical thinking skills in this series to fight to ensure that we are not taken advantage of or exploited by information disparities. We don both defensive protective gear and offensive weaponry. On offense we thrust forward, probing, testing and examining content to discern if it should be defeated and discarded (as a lie) or retained and utilized in our lives in our mission to surpass our goals.
This is not a series for the weak minded or fearful as we will leave no stone unturned in our quest to ensure that we are not exploited, not ignored and not used as pawns by powerful people. Our education (formal and informal) is our most powerful weapon to equalize our opportunities for success (on our own terms). Our episode today is, “Failing To Plan Is Planning To Fail.” This is not a myth, It is accurate. The issue is why do you have the goal of failure? Why do you want to fail? Imagine an adolescent child that is told by their parents that they are going to learn to play the flute. (I wanted to play the flute when I was younger but never learned, anyway, back to the example.) They are provided a flute and enrolled in flute lessons. The child couldn’t care less about the flute. They do not practice between lessons. They lie to their parents when asked about practicing and state that they did so. They do not think about the flute at all other than when they are forced to go to their flute teacher. They try out for the school band and due to their lack of skill they are not accepted. They have seemingly failed. Their parents are disappointed (perhaps even angry due the fees associated with acquiring the flute and the flute lessons). Has the child actually failed? No. They had a plan. They succeeded. The failure to learn the flute was what they wanted. They did not have [...] |
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