This specific episode is, “I Am Used To Having Things MY WAY and I Have NO PATIENCE When They Aren't. Help Me!"
Who are we after an extended time period of being catered to by others?
When we get used to having our needs and desires met (because we are the boss, the important client, the well paying supporter, etc.) it may result in us starting to believe that we deserve to be catered to and treated as a “special” person. We get used to having our meals served as we prefer and not having to wait in lines (because we are granted special access or we pay for extra convenience). Our ability to tolerate discomfort and to simply wait passively for attention is reduced. We start to think that any obstacle in our path is simply a temporary issue that with money or other resources will be removed from our life.
We know that we can often leverage our income and/ or power to make our lives easier. This is one of the primary reasons we made the sacrifices that we did to surpass our goals! We treat ourselves to our favorite experiences and why not? Yet, we are quick to anger and become frustrated when we hear that magic word that no human likes directed towards their request, “No.” We hear this word more rarely now (for some it is a faint memory from an earlier time that they try to forget). Everyone is usually so “nice” to us (asking us if we need anything, checking on our preferences, paying attention to us, etc.). Instead of that dreaded word “no”, in a stressful situation (where we are not immediately receiving what we desire) we may be told, “let me see what I can do for you.”
We change our thinking and behavior and start to expect attentive deference. Why not? We pay top dollar. We are a great customer or client. Why shouldn’t we be treated as someone who is important by employees, vendors, and even family or friends who we “help” with our guidance and generosity? The prolonged exposure to having our needs and desires met, to not hearing “No” may result in us becoming intolerant, impatient and a pathetic caricature of the pampered, incessantly demanding and insensitive “successful” person.
STOP! We are not that spoiled, insipid, whiny baby who always has to have things our way. So, why are we acting like that?
“As a person’s levels of wealth increase, their feelings of compassion and empathy go down, and their feelings of entitlement, of deservingness, and their ideology of self-interest increases,” (http://blog.ted.com/2013/12/20/6-studies-of-money-and-the-mind/)
How did this happen?