RADIO SHOW/AUDIO PODCAST: Solutions...with Courtney Anderson! (SwCA) Episode 108 - Originally aired 5/22/2014 9:00 AM - JOYFUL ART OF BUSINESS! series -"Afraid to care too much, for fear that the other person does not care at all."
This episode is part of our JOYFUL ART OF BUSINESS™ series wherein we explore how to combine the positive benefits of our professional endeavors (“business”) with the overall positive emotional return on our efforts (“joy”). Our episode topic is, “We are afraid to care too much, for fear that the other person does not care at all.” - Eleanor Roosevelt (longest serving First Lady of the US)
I have previously shared another Eleanor Roosevelt quote. It is, “We all know people who are so much afraid of pain that they shut themselves up like clams in a shell and, giving out nothing, receive nothing and therefore shrink until life is a mere living death.” - Eleanor Roosevelt
We have all suffered in our own way when it comes to the issue of caring. Some people have “too much” where they feel stifled and smothered by the affection from others. Some people have “too little” where they feel isolated and alone without anyone caring for them. Most people are in the middle where they have some people who have loved and cared for them and others that they wanted to care for them who did not. The stinging burn of having a person that we care for reject us completely (they do not care for us at all) lingers for a lifetime.
The embarrassment and anger at having risked our hearts and emotions and having our feelings met with stony indifference hurts. Some people decide that they will prevent future pain by not showing that they care for anyone. They build walls around themselves with the goal of protecting themselves from rejection. The challenge is [...]