Our MANAGEMENT MAGICIANS™ series is dedicated to those exceptional few who step forward to serve as guides, sages and responsible parties for others in pursuit of the greater good for society and their organization! These are managers who redefine their job titles to ensure their own personal contentment as they motivate, monitor and mentor their team members each day. The “magic” that a talented manager is able to create changes their lives, the lives of their team members and ripples throughout the larger society. We salute their sacrifices and share their techniques and “secrets” to achieving sustained positive experiences for themselves, clients, customers, peers, team members, and the public at large! In this episode, our topic is, "How to effectively avoid the ‘Mean Manager Syndrome’!”
Remember, most people do not want to be managers (aka “the boss”)! “According to a new Pew survey, 43% of respondents say they wouldn’t want to be a boss or top manager manager someday.” (http://business.time.com/2014/01/13/5-reasons-you-definitely-dont-want-to-be-the-boss/) Many of the reasons relate to the “extra” tasks, responsibility, stress, etc. It is therefore reasonable and strongly recommended that you conduct an honest self-assessment to determine if you really want to accept a new opportunity (or continue to accept an existing one) to serve in a management position. Do not equate being a manager with automatically being a mean person. Yes, there are some managers that also happen to be mean. There are also some managers that happen to be six feet tall. There is no correlation between being a manager and being mean or tall. The “Mean Manager Syndrome” often is a result of a person who never should have accepted (or continue to accept) a management position as it overloads them (in terms of time, stress, skills, emotional outlay, etc.). You will not experience the syndrome if... In our HAVE YOU HEARD? series (this is the debut) we explore some of the information that I find interesting from a personal or general interest perspective! These are not topics directly related to our core business, legal and personal empowerment issues (they are beyond those realms). As I am an addicted and voracious reader, I constantly learn about things that I find interesting. Some of them relate to an issue in my life and other items are just tempting to my curious nature. This series is an opportunity for me to reach out and share those curiosities with all of you! Some of these posts may later be part of a show or podcast! As always, some links may be to our show sponsors so make sure to support them! Today I am posting about a curious issue that was generated originally from my personal life and experience. I have had a lifetime of sensitivity to caffeine. So, when I consume it I feel nauseous, my stomach is upset, my heart races and generally it is very uncomfortable. This has been something I have dealt with since I was a child. Caffeine is is many wonderful beverages and foods (coffee, chocolate, etc.) and I wish that I could enjoy them! Each time I have to explain to a group of people at a restaurant or dinner party that I am not able to eat any chocolate cake, I wish that I was able to join in with everyone else! I just don't want to get sick! So, I am not declining desert due to watching my diet, I am simply doing so because I am very sensitive to caffeine. I decline meeting at Starbucks or other coffee houses as the aroma of coffee makes me nauseous. Caffeine sensitivity is real! According to the Mayo Clinic, "Some people are more sensitive to caffeine than are others. If you're susceptible to the effects of caffeine, just small amounts — even one cup of coffee or tea — may prompt unwanted effects, such as restlessness and sleep problems." (http://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-living/nutrition-and-healthy-eating/in-depth/caffeine/art-20045678) Although I am jealous of the food and beverages that I "miss out on" perhaps my natural physical reactions have some potential benefit to my voice (which I use for work)! "People with voice disorders, singers, and other voice professionals are often advised against using caffeine. However, until recently, this recommendation was based only on hearsay. Now developing research seems to indicate that caffeine may actually harm voice quality. But further study is necessary to confirm these early findings." (http://www.webmd.com/vitamins-supplements/ingredientmono-979-CAFFEINE.aspx?activeIngredientId=979&activeIngredientName=CAFFEINE) So, I would love desert (just no chocolate) and I love to drink hot tea (caffeine free)! Please don't make fun of me (or other people with dietary requirements)! Here are some links to groups and resources about dietary issues (insensitivities, allergies, intolerance, etc.): Global - http://www.worldallergy.org/worldallergyweek/patient-advocacy.php In the UK - http://www.patient.co.uk/health/food-allergy-and-intolerance In AUS - http://www.foodauthority.nsw.gov.au/consumers/problems-with-food/allergy-and-intolerance/#.U9AYooBdVmg In the USA - http://www.aafa.org/esg_search.cfm and - http://www.foodallergy.org/support-groups In South Africa - http://cindypivacic.co.za/uncategorized/caffeine-allergysensitivity/ In the MYTH WARRIORS™ series we are targeting ideas to begin to assess whether they are credible or not. We are warriors fighting to establish clarity between what is accurate and what is simply a myth (or falsehood) in life. This episode is, “Why The Smartest Thing You Can Say Is ‘I Don’t Know.’”
“I Don’t Know. “ Beautiful in its simplicity. Concise in its meaning. Unambiguous. Powerful. Indicative of intellect and introspection. Underused. How often are you in communication with someone and they use a word or phrase that you don’t know? All of the time. It happens to me on a daily basis. Let’s imagine that someone was talking to me at work about types of snow skies and I have never been snow skiing, have never read anything specifically about snow-skiing and have no prior interest or knowledge about snow skiing. What would be the best (in terms of good outcomes for me) way to respond to the following question, “What do you think of the Armada TST?” Option A: “Yeah, those are great.” Option B: “I think that that green eggs and ham are awesome.” Option C: ”I don’t know.” Option A is ... In our LIFE LIBRARY series™ I step outside of work to share with you events, memories and reflections from my personal life! Understanding more about how I use the tools that we discuss and share in our programs, shows and resources is my primary goal in this series! In our debut of this series I am reflecting on one of my current family members, my Chihuahua, Violet. I adopted Violet on July 1, 2011 from a local shelter in central Texas. She was found by animal control on the side of the freeway (I-35) and brought to the shelter. When I first saw her in the shelter she ignored me. She made no noise at all (which was unusual as many of her companion small dogs were very vocal)! In fact she did not bark (or make any other vocal sounds) for about six weeks! I kept asking the veterinarian if there was something medically that needed to be treated (if she was unable to bark or simply unwilling). The veterinarian assured me that she was perfectly healthy and sure enough, when she was ready she spoke up! My guess is that when she finally realized that my home was now her permanent home she decided to relax and share her vocal enthusiasm and support of "her territory" (which is everywhere in the house)! Overall though at this point, unless there is some exciting new first time visitor at home, she is still very quiet. These pictures were taken on the day that I adopted her and brought her home! She had no identification at the shelter and was in heat, proestrus apparently (it was the first time in my life that I purchased and used dog panties and pads). Her age was estimated to be about 1 and 1/2 years. She was less than six pounds. As soon as she was able to do so, she was spayed. The top picture is of us when she first got home! The painting in back is one of my favorites from my collection (I love vibrant colored scenes on canvas). The picture below is a first day home solo photo of Violet (without me taking up space). Yes, in the picture above I dressed her in a pink outfit (with glitter) that reads, "Princesses Are Always In Style!" This is my first Chihuaha, my first female dog and my second dog total. Yes, she has other outfits. Yes, she has a pink name tag. I am not ashamed! She is a delightful companion! She has flown on planes (on Southwest Airlines) and she has an adventurous life (in my estimation relative to other peer Chihuahuas)! She loves to eat and I have to continue to monitor her weight as she is so small that maintaining a healthy size is of utmost importance. As most dog aficionados, I believe that she is above average in intelligence! She has a facial expression that she only does when she is really happy and it looks like she is smiling. She never ceases to make me smile and I hope that she helped you smile too! I have had three dogs in my adult life and all of them have been adopted from shelters. Please support your local animal shelter! Here are some links: USA: - http://www.aspca.org/donate - http://www.humanesociety.org/donate/ Global: - http://www.hsi.org/ - http://www.spcai.org/ For Chihuahua fans out there, here is a support site: - http://www.chihuahua-people.com/ I have to share links for all of us who are not embarrassed to ensure our pets are warm and/ or fashionable (you know who you are!): |
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